Opening Question

What is something you notice quickly in other people but struggle to notice in yourself?

Key Takeaways

• It’s easy to see what’s wrong with other people and miss what’s happening in our own hearts.
• Jesus wants us to look in before we look out.
• We often give ourselves grace while giving other people judgment.
• We can be right about someone’s mistake and still have the wrong attitude toward them.
• God’s grace should make us more humble, not more judgmental.
• Before we try to correct someone else, we should let God correct us.

Discussion Questions

Check Your Direction

1. When someone does something that bothers you, is your first thought usually about them or about yourself? Why?
2. Have you ever heard good advice and immediately thought of someone else who needed to hear it? Be honest—why do you think we do that?
3. What is something God might be trying to change in you that you’ve been more focused on changing in someone else?

Check Your Measurement

1. Do you tend to assume the worst about people when they mess up? Why?
2. How does knowing that you don’t know someone’s whole story change the way you judge them?
3. What would it look like to give someone the same grace you hope people will give you?

Check Your Vision

1. What’s the difference between helping someone and trying to prove that you’re right?
2. What makes it hard to admit when we are wrong?

Be Honest

1. Is there a person whose mistakes are easier for you to see than your own?
2. What is one area of your own life where you need God to correct you?
3. If you truly believed God has given you grace, how might that change the way you treat people who mess up? With that, what is one thing from this message you need to do differently this week?